Breaking the Cycle of Anxiety Through Purpose and Service
Matt Young (00:00)
pain is not a great feeling. It's not a great emotion to be in. Not a great state to sit in for a while. However, in hindsight, I think it can be one of the most beautiful moments when you can
change that to use that to help elevate others.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (00:54)
Welcome back to Live the Width of Your Life podcast. Thank you so much for coming back again. My guest today is Matt Young. He is a professional coach and former professional footballer who has dedicated more than 15 years to studying the peak performers of both mind and body. He has been coached by some of the world's leading experts and holds multiple qualifications in human psychology, behavior, and anatomy.
And over the years, he's completed 17 ultra marathons, including five over 100 miles and 18 marathons. He also used to play Premier League soccer. And over time, he has committed his life to empowering people to break free from what holds them back mentally and emotionally, guiding them to move from the life they live to the one that they truly crave. I loved our conversation. We went really deep on ultra performance.
endurance coaching and sport, and also just about things that happen in his own life, what he has overcome in terms of living beliefs and other challenges in order to be able to help other people today who are facing uncertainty, anxiety, or just feeling stuck. I loved our conversation and I think you will as well. Take a listen.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (02:10)
Matt, welcome to the Live the Width of Your Life podcast.
Matt Young (02:14)
Thank you very much for having me. It's a pleasure to be here.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (02:17)
So exciting to have you here with me. And you and I just recently connected and it was one of those conversations where we just met to talk about like, hey, is this a good fit for the show? And I just instantaneously, think within a couple of minutes of hearing your story, I just thought, I cannot wait to go deeper. I didn't even want you to tell me anything more. I wanted to save it all for today. So.
So excited for us to be able to talk a little bit about your story and what you find you're so passionate about in your life. So for those that don't know you, do you mind just sharing a little bit about your background because it's so interesting to hear the background and how you got to where you are today.
Matt Young (02:54)
Absolutely, thank you for the intro. So yeah, now I specialize, I suppose, with my work around life coaching in anxiety and fear, mainly. That is my main work that I do with people. But prior to what I do now, I was a professional footballer for many years. Some of your listeners stateside, it will be professional soccer player. And I was a professional soccer player for eight years and, played
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (03:15)
Okay
Matt Young (03:22)
big stadiums, thousands of people and really incredible life the outside at least. And what was going on behind closed doors was a different story. I was battling some internal demons, some limiting emotions, some beliefs, some things that contradicted what I tried to mask over through my football career. And eventually this caught up with me. Eventually this led me down a path where
I would be so in my head, struggling with many limiting emotions and debilitating traits that everything in my life seemed to spiral out of control. My football career, my relationships, my finances, every area possible. And that left me, I suppose, at a rock bottom place with all of the above no longer in my life.
Down a pretty, I suppose conventional path of trying to speak to people, speak to the obvious roots of know psychologists when I was at football clubs and things like this of people might be able to help me but I never found any breakthroughs, I never found any avenues to actually allow me to feel free from how I was feeling and that eventually led me down a path of
pretty much feeling like this was life now, this was the way I was gonna be and you just gotta try and cope and manage and get by in this area. And eventually there was something that happened in my life, and I'm to dive into this at some point, but it made life extremely painful for me where I said there has to be a way, can't continue this way. And I went down some different routes and tried some different methods. Fast forward now, five, six, seven
years on. I've since started a business and now I help to empower people's lives, help free them from what holds them back and created a life that I love, a life on my terms, a life full of vibrancy and energy and love and passion for what I do, hence for my being here on the podcast today. And that's my key and clear message that hopefully I can share that with your listeners today is because
We all go through different situations, myself included, but I'm always a very firm believer of your past, no matter what it's been, doesn't equal your future unless you live there. And I have some solutions that can help people in that area.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (05:51)
Thank you for sharing. How long did you want to be a footballer? Like, did you know since you were a little boy that that's? Yeah.
Matt Young (05:58)
yeah, I
mean I was four years old, daddy I want to play football, dad I want to play football, dad I want to play football and would take me over the park and would kick a ball against the wall and things like this and so since the age of four, five, football more was my whole life and it was truthfully up until my mid-twenties.
mid to late 20s when my football career come to an end. That was my whole life. And so yeah, it was always something I knew at that time I wanted.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (06:30)
And while you were playing football, did you start experiencing some of those feelings where you thought, wow, I should feel amazing. I've reached this goal that every something I've wanted to do my whole life. Was it during that time that you started noticing that even though you had achieved that dream that there was still something that was missing?
Matt Young (06:50)
Absolutely, talk about it with my clients now, across my footballing life, if you want to call it that between the age of let's say five till 26. I remember feeling proud of myself once when I was 18 and got my first professional football contract at Premier League Football Club
England. I remember I felt proud of myself once in that time and even then how long does that last an hour and a half maybe two and then you're like right on to the next thing and it was something where and I speak about it a lot with people now we're always chasing that next win that next promotion that next highlight reel that next thing and
we often think when I have that, then I will feel. And that was my whole football career. And it's pretty, you know, can talk about it quite candidly now, but it was pretty hollow because any superficial feeling of happiness or joy was always followed up with, yeah, but you can't rest there, next thing. Yeah, but you can't rest there, what's next? And it made me determined, it made me driven, it made me incredibly hard working.
what's it all for when you go back to the four walls of your flat and you don't recognise yourself, as I called it, was a shell of a man underneath that. So yeah, was definitely something I experienced in that time.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (08:10)
Yeah.
Did you share that with anybody? Did you share it with any of your mates or your family or anybody or were you just kind of battling this alone?
Matt Young (08:22)
No, I think if in terms of the quote unquote battles that I touched on at the start here, this didn't even enter my realm at this stage. This was just, the way life is. You're a professional footballer. There's demands on you here. You have to perform week in, week out. you have a job, you have a duty. There's people who are coming to pay to watch you pay in their hard earned money. So this, I'll be honest with you, wasn't even something that
entered my thinking at that stage. It was just the norm. And even when I work with athletes now, professional athletes and even everyday people, the norm for people. They don't even realise they're on what I call the treadmill of life, which is just churning, churning, churning every single day.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (08:55)
Yeah.
Matt Young (09:09)
And like that was pretty much me. You don't even recognize you're in that place because you just think that this is the norm. So it wasn't anything to share at that time because I didn't even recognize there was something to share.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (09:20)
Isn't that interesting? We think it's the price of entry where we think everyone's going through this or like you said, there's a sense of responsibility maybe that you felt as a young person to perform, to do the right thing because people were coming to see you and achieved your dream, you achieved your goal. So did you choose to leave football or did something happen that ended your career?
Matt Young (09:42)
No, as I said, I played professionally for a fair few years and because of my off the field struggles, and it wasn't the only reason, looking back now I can see how it heavily infiltrated my career. My career took a bit of a decline and I went into part-time football. And part-time football is pretty much what it says on the team. It's not your full-time job anymore. It is now, Tuesday and Wednesday evenings you're training and you're playing on a Saturday.
And I did that for a little while and then in March of 2020, Covid happens. And when Covid happens and prior to that, when I went part time, I'd loosely set up a business in the September, I believe of 2019. I'd loosely set up a business and when March happened, it squashed part time football. And so I was in a position there. Well, I was like...
you need to do something and this is where in a very short span of time I was able to make some growth within the work of what I do probably because I was extremely passionate by this stage having sorted out some of the areas of my own life to share and to help and to
help advance others that within six months and during COVID I worked with Google, worked with Shell, I worked with Premier League football clubs from the perspective of what I do now. And then by that time when you get to 2021, 22 when COVID is sort of...
diminishing a little bit if we can call it that and people re-exercising normal life there was a stage of what am I going to go back to that life now or continue what I've created now and that's obviously the journey I've taken.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (11:25)
Yeah, I love that. So tell us a little bit about what you did to help yourself first with the doubts, the limiting beliefs, the things you were struggling with. And then when you had that idea, like, I think I might be able to help other people with us.
Matt Young (11:41)
Well, initially it was pain, pain and more pain that drove me to that place. I think that pain is not a great feeling. It's not a great emotion to be in. Not a great state to sit in for a while. However, in hindsight, I think it can be one of the most beautiful moments when you can
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (11:46)
you
Matt Young (12:08)
change that to use that to help elevate others. And for me, from a place of lot of despair and worry and depressive thoughts and anxiety and place where I was stuck.
I knew things had to change, I'd become like I was with football. I'd become pretty obsessed with finding a solution for myself. So I'd read books, I would go on courses, I would speak to therapists and psychologists, and I try to learn and understand and get to the root of why I'm feeling this way. What is it that's led me down this path? Why am I having these thoughts? Am I the only one? Is this the only reason why?
And that's the only word I can use, become obsessed with finding solutions, looking at people who have got what I want from an emotional sense, confidence, the love, the joy, the purpose, the passion in their life, and going, how can I create that? Away from football, away from an identity that says I'm this type of person, just as Matt Young, a human being, how can I feel that? How can I create that? And...
After a period of time of that, you start to piece together some options, you start to piece together some solutions for yourself. And then when you start to see them working in your life, the first thing I want to do is share that with others. The first thing you want to do is tell everyone. initially, you now friends, look, friends, family, I can help in this way. If you're stuck with this, like, let me help. I'd love to help you. People think he's gone a bit crazy. But after a while, when you
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (13:23)
Yeah.
Matt Young (13:39)
start to formulate that into a way that actually can really systematically help people that was really where I then started to think you know what now there's something real here if you've totally done a 180 with your life and where you were emotionally how can you help empower others with this and that was really the kickstart of that.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (14:01)
Did others notice the change in you? Did people notice that you were doing something different?
Matt Young (14:08)
I'm inclined to say no because I was always a little bit of... I keep myself to myself and at the time of when this happened and when I was in this place, I was living in a tiny little studio flat at the time on my own, like...
the bedroom, the living room, the bathroom, we're all in the same room and the little kitchen area at the back. And it would just be me. I would do some laboring on a building site to try and make some money because my football career wasn't quite where it needed to be. And I'd make some money on a building site and come home and then get wrapped up in studies or wrapped up in learnings and uncovering myself and going on these courses, as I say. Over that period of time, it was very much a
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (14:30)
Yeah.
Matt Young (14:54)
spiritual self-healing, if you want to call it that, journey. And I think the snippets that family would have seen and friends would have seen at that time would have been the same, Matt Young, because I would always try to present this mask that I'm a confident. I'm good, everything's great on the surface. I'd always try to present that, but this is where I talk about the four walls of my flat. When I went back home and you're left...
and there's just four walls looking back at you, that's where I used to find that these demons and these worries, these fears used to come out. So if anything, to answer your question a little bit more directly, I don't think people would have noticed much at that stage. However, I started to notice and if anything, that gave me even more drive, even more motivation, even more sense of peace within myself.
That would be the clear sort of disparity, I'd say.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (15:51)
It's such a hero's journey that when we start to make changes and we start to notice that we have changed, that our identity has shifted, that we then want to help others. Especially if you feel like it's tied to your purpose. And so now that you did that work, like how did you gain the confidence to reach out to some of these big companies? You said you work with Google and Shell and FIFA. Like how did you say,
I want to help you and your teams. have something that I know can help other people.
Matt Young (16:23)
Well, one of the reasons why was because I learned from what not to do from myself think football for me, I loved football and I love everything about it, but it was such a great learning curve for me in hindsight of all the things not to do because I would never want to, in football, put myself out there too much that I could be judged.
or I'd never want to put myself in an environment where I could be shut down. So I wouldn't make that phone call. I wouldn't push for that meeting. I wouldn't make that call. I wouldn't go and speak to the manager. I wouldn't back myself in a certain situation. And now I understand why, because of things that were a little bit deeper rooted at the time.
But when it come to the stage of where I set up this business and I knew and I'd seen and I'd experienced why I'd started to shift in my own life and how it could help. you start to work with close family and friends and you've seen that I almost had the approach of, I know I can help here. I know I can add value and quality value into people's lives.
I would be doing people a disservice if I didn't share this. And that's more of the approach that I had with it. And so when I would talk to these companies and talk to these sports teams and still do now, talk on stage in front of a few thousand people, I think of the old me and I think, like, I would never survive in this environment. It's still me, I still have the same values, the same morals, but that person of who I was would never have survived in this environment. now...
It very much was just a case of, this is, you called it a purpose there. It aligns with what you need to do, what you should do. So I find it very easy now to pick up that phone like I did then. And it was almost like a switch went off within me. Learn from that, that let's not do that. This is the way forward.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (18:16)
Yeah, I love that you said you started to focus in on helping others. And I know when I work with clients, especially if they have a fear of presenting or they might have a fear of putting themselves out there or judgment, I always say it's if we take the focus off of ourselves, which is usually when we're fearful of something, we're focusing on ourselves, how others will perceive us, what we're capable of doing. But when you take it and you put the focus on the other person wanting to help,
being so present, being engaged, sharing what we've learned, it shifts everything because it becomes about service, it becomes about connection, it becomes about tying what we've learned to a greater purpose. And that always, always makes it easier to make that call, to make the reach out, to engage in a way that others find inviting because it's not about us.
And I think that seems like that was a shift for you too. I know it has been for me and anytime I feel myself creeping back into fear, I always do a little bit of a check for myself. do you find yourself ever relapsing or coming back to some of those old demons or old fears? And if you do, what do you usually do to kind of snap yourself out of it?
Matt Young (19:29)
Yeah, I think you're absolutely right with what you said prior to that because it's absolutely true. When you said when I was at football and I was focused on myself, it was how are going to perceive me? What's the judgment of me going to be? If I do that and it goes wrong, how am I going to feel? Whereas now it's very much, no, I want to serve, I want to give, I want to share, I need to contribute these types of things. So it's more an outward as you say.
And to answer the second part of your question, I mean, yeah, I'm a human being. Same as this, I think anyone who says they don't feel a bit fearful at times would be lying because I'm a human being. I'll share this acronym that someone shared with me. said fear means false expectation appearing real, which
is a great way of putting it, or F everything and run. And when it comes to that, it always puts a smile on my face, it always allows me to put things into perspective, but also when I think you have a true alignment and purpose, whether it be in your relationship or whether it be in your work or in your personal life.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (20:19)
Hahaha!
Matt Young (20:38)
There's always a part of us that I believe that we can tap into that is bigger than fear. It's that part of us that allows us to go, no, you know what, like with my work, for example, in this, this isn't about you, Matt You're here to serve, you're here to deliver, you're here to uplift. And that overrides any fear because it's not like what you said before, it's not about me.
It's about what I can do, how I can serve. In a wonderful relationship, you're focused on how you can uplift, how you can give, how you can share. In personal life, even when it comes to the situations of what we face, if you're focused on the here and now, you're going to be a bit fearful of a situation. If you're focused on what you can create, how you can create a better mindset, a better body, a better financial status, a better house for yourself, whatever it may be.
It gives you an energy, it gives you a drive to want to step up. And that's often how I perceive it these days. Fear is something that is simply when I'm focused on me, me and only me. And if I can snap out of that straight away, if I focus on how I can serve, how I can give, how I can share and contribute.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (21:51)
Yeah, it's such a winning strategy because one, we feel better, we do the work, the other people benefit from it. We feel this deep connection and when we're able to do it. when you work with other companies and you're working with their teams, what are some of the challenges that people are sharing with you? Like what are some of the demons that people are struggling with today?
Matt Young (22:14)
I think it's like everyday people, mean like I said at the start of this, what I specialise in more than anything is around anxiety and fear. So a lot of my one to one and group practices are based around these things that people are struggling with anxiety, whether it will be leaving the house, performance related, stepping on the football pitch, delivering that presentation.
getting on that plane and seeing their family, whatever it may be. So that's always at the forefront of what I do. But then when you go into environments of high performance, for example, like businesses, corporates and sports in worlds, you see that there's a lot of what I call masking going on, a lot of identity presenting.
as a way of trying to mask some things underneath. And that often produces a lot of burnout, produces a lot of fear, produces a lot of jealousy and all these types of things. Self-belief can often be low in those environments because it's something where when you're not aligned and
sure you understand this when I say that when you're not aligned everything feels like it's draining. When you're aligned is a sort of self-fulfilling, self-regenerating energy within you.
And it's often one of the biggest things of when I'm going into these environments, it's one of the first things that I'm looking at. saying, okay, where is it? Where's the truth? What is the truth of what we need to do here? Where is it that I can help these group of people?
Find more self-belief and it's never gonna be on the trading floor, as an example, because that's not my wheelhouse. What it's gonna be in is in how are they connecting with themselves? How are they uplifting themselves away from that? What's their purpose for being here? What's your drive? What's your day-to-day reasons? Because when you can align with that and then you apply it to that vehicle, that's where you have your limitless pull.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (24:13)
Absolutely. I always tell clients when we talk about balance or feeling out of balance, like they feel like something's off. And we say my definition is that when we are aligned daily, we make daily choices that are aligned to our values, intrinsically the things that we know are most important. And we show up that way, you will feel in balance. But if you tell me that your family is most important or your health and you never come home, you miss your kids things,
You don't have dinner with your partner. You're not showing up for yourself at the gym. Of course, you're not gonna feel like you're in balance. You're gonna start to build some resentment. You're gonna start to feel like there's something that's amiss in life. And so just coming back to that place of alignment, and yet sometimes that's the work that people rarely do.
Matt Young (25:04)
and I think it's so spot on because that comes back to where I talk about the treadmill of life that people are on. They're just churning it out, churning it out, churning it out, what I call unconsciously living. Because what truly matters, what truly matters is exactly like what you said there, that's spending time with family, focusing on your health, forging important relationships. But we give like what, 10%, 5% of our week to that?
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (25:33)
Yeah, that's crap.
Matt Young (25:33)
And we give 90 %
of our week to these things that are just, I don't know, that's what I do. And we wonder why there's an epidemic of worry and fear and depression and these types of things is because as you've touched on absolutely perfectly, people are not aligned in the truths of what really matter. And there's always a great, you might have heard of it, there's always the great parable of the Chinese fishermen.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (26:01)
Tell it again. Yeah, tell it. Share it.
Matt Young (26:01)
Have you heard that? Yeah,
where the Chinese fisherman where he's out every morning and there's an American businessman who's watching him for a couple of mornings. He sees him, he goes out at 9am, catches some fish, brings them in. 12 o'clock.
Reels his line in, takes them home, sells his fish to the local fish market, goes home. One day the American businessman goes to him and says, if you stayed a little bit longer, you could make a little bit more money. And the Chinese fisherman says, no, no, no, I'm happy doing what I'm doing.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (26:34)
Ha
Matt Young (26:42)
Really? He's like, yeah, I finish at 12 o'clock. I go home. I spend time with my wife. I spend time with my family. That's perfect. And the American businessman says, no, but you can make more money. And the fisherman says, and what will that do? And he goes, well, if you work longer, you earn more money, then you can grow a bigger business.
And the fisherman says, what will that do? And he goes, well, when you grow bigger business, you can employ more people and make even more money. And the fisherman says, and what will that do? And he's like, because when you make even more money, then you can expand and take it into continental and you can take it across and you can even bring it to America, the land of opportunity. And he said, and what will that do? And then he said, well, once you've done all that, then you can just go home to your wife and kids.
Fisherman says I already do that. and this is very much comes back to the what we're saying here that people are on this treadmill in this unconscious treadmill of life when really what they want is right in front of them and when people become aligned with that that's where I feel like true peace and calm and understanding and
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (27:31)
Mm.
Matt Young (27:53)
contentment, fulfilment, that's where it really is. So I always like that story because sometimes I think, especially in the Western world, myself included, we can all get caught up in times like, need to make more money, need to be in this type of shape, need to do this, need to go to this level, need to be better, be better, be better. It's like, okay, but what's that all for? Because most of the times everything that we want is right there in front of us.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (28:13)
Yeah.
⁓ You told the story so beautifully. it's actually, feel emotional thinking about it because it requires us to slow down, to reflect, to ask ourselves, like the fisherman, he knew what was most important. Going home, having enough to probably take care of their needs, but spending time with his wife and with his children. And yet I think that in the Western world, so many of us from the youngest of ages
we have this path that's sort of just indoctrinated. It's just assumed this is the path that you will take and you will do it until you reach 67 or whatever the age of retirement. And then you hope and pray for a few healthy years to enjoy. I don't think it's working. I think that we're starting to see the cracks in massive ways. I think the pandemic definitely, it was like a forced
pause on so many people. It's almost like the autopilot life that we were living suddenly derailed and people were asking themselves much bigger, deeper questions and making assumptions and choosing simplicity over access. So the work that you do, the work that I do is so important because we hold a mirror to people. We ask those deep questions. So what are some of the things that
you do with your clients as you're working with them to help them to really get to that place where they can answer for themselves, what does a well lived life look like for me? What's a life with no regrets look like for me?
Matt Young (29:50)
I think you're absolutely spot on. And just to touch on, like what you said about COVID there, I think that's absolutely on the money with it, because like I said earlier, that I think pain when you're in it is not a great place to be. In introspection after it's done, in hindsight, it can often breed the most beautiful flowers. Because one thing that COVID did do is it made people slow down.
It made people jump off that treadmill of life and have to look at things in a different way. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't always plain sailing. It was obviously things where people struggled in that area. spending maybe an hour at home, of an evening at most, people were spending 23 hours a day at home now.
and their minds are so conditioned to go, go, go, go, go, people struggled with that side of it. So I always think that's a wonderful sort of way that people can reframe that period in our lives. But when it comes to what I do now, one of the key things that I'm always driven to help.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (30:42)
Yeah.
Matt Young (30:54)
My clients understand is, and I don't want this to get lost is, but what's their truth? And what I mean by their truth is people present limiting emotions, anxiety, fear, worry, doubt, stress, overwhelm, depressions. They present these limiting emotions, but it's not who we are. It's not who they are. And it's not because I'm judge and juror or I'm the one in control of that, but
they wouldn't be listening to a podcast like this or they be engaging with us, with our client work, if that was truly who they believed they are. And so a big part of what I like to do is...
help them through the ways that obviously I know to strip those back, to help them move past those limiting emotions and then say, right, where's your North Star? Where's your real to you? Because from that place, then we can create a life essentially that's on your terms. Whatever that looks is for that person to design and I can help them design it, but that's really
what I'm really passionate about because people present at these stages of where I am with my work, they present a manner of different things, haven't been on a plane in 21 years, haven't driven in 30 years, thinking about getting themselves sectioned, haven't eaten in six days, you know, some really sort of quite radical things that people come to struggle with panic attacks for 45 years. And
I enjoy helping them remove those obstacles and helping them get on the plane to see their family and drive that car and leave the town. And I love that. But what I love most is when you see that person then take the next step and go, right, that's one thing, removing that limitation. But that's just the start now. Here's where I'm now heading. Because like I said earlier, that creates a regenerative energy within someone where they really you just see them light up and
that's where I really get my fulfillment from what I do and the work that we do together because there's something that I've been on that journey myself and when you can share that with others and you see other people strip back those limiting emotions and the word I like to use is unleash their true potential that's underneath. That's really what keeps me coming back for more. So yeah, that's my purpose with all of this.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (33:17)
That's right. Yeah.
Oh, I can feel your passion. tell us a little bit more about your 28 day program, Uncertain to Unstoppable.
Matt Young (33:27)
Yeah, I wonderful, wonderful journey. And this is pretty much a little bit what I'm alluding to here. People have gone through that program, completely self paced program that they can do at their own time. And what it is, is a deep dive into them, into where they are, where are they currently stuck?
And more importantly, where is it you want to go in your life right now? What's most important to you right now? Is it you want to enhance your work? Is it you enhance your sense of peace and self-worth? Is it your relationships? Is it a mixture of these things? It's a real journey into uncovering those drivers, stripping back the things that maybe on a surface level take our distractions away from those things. The anxieties, the fears, the worries, the doubts, the overwhelms.
Helping you mitigate them and really aligning with it. As you alluded to, a 28-day journey that people have got a lot of benefit from over these last few years since it's been released and it's something that I'm extremely proud of and as I say it takes people on a wonderful, wonderful journey is the best way I can explain it from uncertain to unstoppable.
Yes, it's a wonderful, wonderful program for that. If someone is looking for that.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (34:52)
Yeah, and I mean, just it's amazing to think about the change you can make in just 28 days. And for people that are maybe have been struggling for a long time, it's hard to believe that you can, but you absolutely can start to make some real significant changes. Especially working with someone like you who's gone through it himself. So what's next? What is next for you? there anything else on the horizon that you want to share with the audience?
Matt Young (35:17)
Yeah, I mean, there's nothing I'm ever going to stop. I sometimes have conversations with my mum and she always says that, oh, you need to slow down, you're going to get towards retirement soon and all this. And I'm like, no, I'm never going to retire. I never want to retire. This isn't a...
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (35:33)
Yeah.
Matt Young (35:36)
quote unquote it is but this isn't a job to me this is a life's purpose for me this is a real this energizes me this gives me life so for me what's next is I have some wonderful programs coming out live in person programs we're currently in the early stages of developing a book I know obviously you've been down that journey yourself which is wonderful we had a chat about that off screen
We're starting on that journey, which will be I do a lot of speaking events and different places around the world and corporate events. So there's a lot to come, a lot of online Zoom type webinars and things that I'm looking to share with people.
Yeah, there's a lot in the offing, there's a lot coming. From this time last year to this time this year, if we do that same level of growth again, then people will be getting impacted in a beautiful way. So that's the main goal here, to impact more and more and more.
My whole thing, the ethos of what we do here is a mission to empower millions. And since, I was in that tiny little studio flat and I started to get things together, that was my little tagline that I wrote down, stuck it on my kitchen cupboards. So that's my goal.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (36:34)
Yeah.
That's beautiful. I have no doubt you'll achieve all that and more because you do it from a place of service, which is always, always going to be bring more abundance, more blessings. So if people want to work with you, Matt, what is the best way they can find you?
Matt Young (37:01)
Yeah, thank Naturally on social media, whether it's Instagram, generally people's location of choice. My tag, the way people can find me that is Matt Young, L C M A T T Y O U N G with the letter L, the letter C. And you can find more about my work and what I do there or via my website, www.mattyounglc.com. And you can find a lot about my programs and my work and
people I've worked with and read some wonderful stories around that area and they're generally the two core ways that people can reach out, find out a little bit more, understand what we do. Obviously, naturally we're on YouTube as well but it's all under the same tag so they'll be the core areas where people can find us.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (37:45)
I love it, will include all those links. And then the final question I ask everyone is, what does it mean to you to live the width of your life?
Matt Young (37:54)
I loved this when I read it because to live the width of my life I really thought and even now I'm really trying to think about the right way that I would answer that but without being too... I suppose the word is morbid with this... living the width of my life the way that I approach most situations now is from... and hopefully this is conveyed in a lovely sense that...
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (37:55)
You
Matt Young (38:22)
tomorrow is not promised for anyone tomorrow is not promised for anyone and I think it's easy to say you know live every day like it's your last it's another thing to truly try and live that way and I'm not perfect in that but that's always my strive that's always my goal that to live the width of my life is to give what I can in the moments I've got
Whether that's a one-to-one session with a client, whether that's sitting here on this podcast with yourself, whether that's spending time with my wife later on over dinner. I really try as much as I can. As I say, I'm still on my own journey. I'm still learning myself all the time, but to live the width of my life is to give what I have in those moments because I know
As a byproduct of that, I'm going to feel all the emotions that I crave as well, the love, the care, the depth, the connection. I'm going to feel that within myself when I give from that place. And so to live that, live the width of that is truly my striving every day. So that would be my main goal.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (39:29)
I love it. My definition is very similar. thank you for being such a bright light in this world. Thank you for the work that you do. I do have to ask for my dad, what ⁓ teams did you or clubs as you guys call him, what did you play for? I have to ask. He watches, that's his church on Sundays is watching English premier football.
Matt Young (39:47)
Good on him, he's got his priorities straight. like to hear it. So I played for a club called Southampton Football Club which...
just dropped down out of the Premier League, but if your dad's an avid follower, they was there for the last couple of seasons in the Premier League. I played for a team called Sheffield Wednesday, who are in the second division down as well. A team called Carlisle United, which again, are a few below that as well. And then a few other clubs in and around the few steps down, played for Woking, Kidam Insta, and a few part-time teams as well. So.
They were the core teams of where I applied my trade over a period of time and then stepped foot into a few part-time teams as well.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (40:29)
wonder what you think of Ted Lasso.
Matt Young (40:31)
My wife and I were hooked on that. We were absolutely hooked. We absolutely loved it. What do I think? I think it was such a great...
I don't know the correct word, but viewing for the different dynamics of how an English football team is and an American guy coming over who doesn't know anything about that, but he's got some morals, he's got some values, he's got some alignments as we call them. I absolutely loved it. Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful production. And I know a few people who appeared in that show and I think they loved it as well.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (40:59)
Yeah.
That's wonderful. Matt, you're delightful. It was just a pleasure to speak with you today. And I'd love for you to come back when your book comes out, just adding a little bit of accountability for you. There you go.
Matt Young (41:18)
No, please.
As I say, thank you very much for having me because I'm happy to obviously share that. I've come across your podcast and I listened to an episode and I listened to two and I was like, really enjoy this hence why we're here today. So thank you very much for having me on and I really appreciate that. And I'll be back for the book. Don't worry.
Aneta Ardelian Kuzma (41:30)
Yes.
There you go. Thank you so much. Cheers.
Matt Young (41:38)
Thank you.