Yes, you can!

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Yes, you can!

When you think we can’t go further, you can.

At the end of September my godson Gabe asked if I would participate in a pushup challenge.  When he asked me to join him and others on this challenge he created, I hesitated. I knew I could do 10 full pushups, maybe even 20, but I hadn’t done more than 50 in one day before. 

The challenge was to add a “0” to the date. October 1 we did 10 pushups, October 2 we doubled it to 20, and so on until the final day the goal was 310 pushups.  I told Gabe I didn’t know if I could do 310. He replied “You don’t need to do 310 today, you only need to do 10 on day 1. Can you do 10?”  I said I could and I reluctantly committed to the challenge.

The first few days were fairly easy. I did all of my pushups in one sitting, or I split them up with short breaks in between each set. After the first few days, the initial soreness went away and I could feel myself getting stronger and becoming more confident. 

As the daily challenge grew larger, I had to strategize. I started to mix up the pushups - wide, narrow, inclined, and modified, also.  I also had to spread them out throughout the day in order to get them all in before my energy was depleted.  

I started to notice that I had more energy in the morning so I would do 50 while I waited for my morning cups of coffee to finish. I promised myself at the beginning that I would not get hurt or to give up. This required me to strategize daily and then execute well.

We had a Facebook group where we recorded our daily challenge, we supported one another and shared how we felt daily. This community helped me to stay accountable, and also allowed me to encourage others when they needed support. 

Yesterday, I finished the pushup challenge having completed 310 pushups on the final day. I didn’t know if I could/would finish physically or mentally. Yet, I did without any injuries.

I realized early on that this challenge was going to be an example of how to tackle any large project, new endeavor, or really anything that scared me.  

Lessons learned:

  • Sometimes we stop ourselves from saying “yes” to new challenges because the end goal seems too big, too hard, or too complicated.

  • We may say “no” because we aren’t sure how or if we can finish. We allow our fears to convince us to not even try.

  • What we worry about may not be the true challenge. I was worried about my strength, my endurance, and the threat of potential injuries before I accepted this challenge. I discovered that the greatest challenge was strategizing daily and then executing to the plan.

  • When we think we can’t go further, we can. A strong mindset is critical.

  • Completing something you didn’t think you could do is the fuel to propel you forward to greater heights.

I have said “no” to things in my life because I allowed fear to hold me back. However, this challenge reminded me that all goals begin with one step and one action in the right direction.   If you have put a goal off because you don’t know if and how you’ll accomplish it, I hope that my experience encourages you to say “yes”.

Season of Transformation

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Season of Transformation

I have resolved to live, not just endure, each season of my life” - healingbrave.com

I can’t get over the gorgeous colors in nature right now. Today on my morning walk I was amazed again at how the leaves keep changing to the most majestic jewel colors. It’s interesting that before they shed their leaves for several months, they don’t just drop their leaves despondently, but instead become even more beautiful. 

Today I was inspired to think about how we could each use this change in season to become a better versions of ourselves. Instead of dreading the colder days ahead, or wishing we were somewhere else, we can set positive intentions for who we choose to be in the next season of our lives.

Here are some ways to grow into this next season of transformation:

  • Focus on self-care. Self-care is so critical for our optimal health. It is not a sign of weakness to take care of ourselves. Make a list of the things that bring you joy and schedule them into your day, your week and your month. They could be simple pleasures or finally making sleep a priority and starting a new bedtime ritual. Whatever you need, make time for it. 

  • Invest in your growth and development.  Our education doesn’t stop once we finish school. One of the greatest ways to keep our minds strong is to continue learning. This could be reading/listening to books on topics that interests you, learning a new language, picking up a new hobby, listening to a podcast - the list is endless.

  • Serve others. This year especially, there are many people in need. Choosing to focus on giving back and helping others is good for the soul and can instill a new sense of purpose and joy. Align with an organization whose mission resonates with you, or do simple acts of kindness for friends, family or even strangers. 

  • Do things that scare you. Often we say “no” to opportunities because we don’t know if and how we’ll be able to do them. What if we said “yes” and took a leap of faith that we would figure it out? You may be surprised at what you’re capable of.

  • Be kind to yourself. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt, acknowledge tiny steps in the right direction and celebrate your wins along the way.

Finally, choose to see the beauty and uniqueness of every season of life . “I have resolved to live, not just endure, each season of my life”. - healingbrave.com

La Dolce Far Niente

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La Dolce Far Niente

When was the last time you did nothing and didn’t feel bored or guilty?

When was the last time you did nothing and didn’t feel bored or guilty?

I can’t recall the last time I did nothing all day long.  Yesterday, I did just that, and I relished every minute.  

This weekend my days and evenings were packed with activity and we went to bed late.  Saturday night I didn’t sleep enough and woke up exhausted.  I tried to follow my morning routine but didn’t have the energy to do much of anything.  

I begrudgingly canceled plans with my friends and instead stayed in my pajamas for most of the day.  I read a book, took a nap on the couch, soaked in the tub, and then watched “Eat, Pray, Love” with my family.  Although I’ve seen this movie several times before, and read the book at least twice, one scene in the movie stood out this time around.  

The main character Liz is in Rome with her friends in a barber shop when herfriend Luca states that Americans don’t know the true meaning of La Dolce Far Niente. Loosely translated this expression means “the art of doing nothing”  or “the sweetness of nothing.”  Now, how ironic and appropriate that I was practicing La Dolce Far Niente yesterday and relishing in doing nothing all day long.

In the morning, I enjoyed two delicious cups of coffee while staring out at the trees, flowers and sky. Then, when I was reading my book, a hummingbird flew directly in front of my face and hovered for at least 10 seconds. I was so taken aback by the proximity of this magical creature that I felt my breath quicken.  After my new friend departed, I looked up the significance of a hummingbird spotting, and found that they are reminders to suck the sweetness out of life, to be present and mindful - La Dolce Far Niente. 

I was reminded of how important it is to observe a day of rest and learn again how to pause and give my mind and body a break.  By the end of the day, I was more relaxed, my energy was strengthened, and I felt refreshed.  I now recognize the need to take a day of rest each week.  And, there are ways we can practice La Dolce Far Niente daily. 

How can we practice La Dolce Far Niente more often in our lives?

  • Enjoy your cup of coffee or tea in silence

  • Sit quietly in nature

  • Read a book or magazine

  • Put away all of your devices 

  • Take a nap

  • Listen to music

  • Lounge in a hammock

  • Take a leisurely walk

  • People watch

If doing nothing sounds indulgent and maybe a little uncomfortable, start incorporating small, little moments throughout the day that eventually add up.  Over time, you may start to fall in love with this practice.  

How will you practice the sweetness of doing nothing?

How are you sleeping?

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How are you sleeping?

Do you wake up refreshed, renewed and re-energized every morning? Or, have you been feeling extra tired lately?

Do you wake up refreshed, renewed and re-energized every morning?

Or, have you been feeling extra tired lately

Do you have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking easily in the morning?  

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are not alone.  

Most adults need 7-9 hours per night for optimal health. Yet, in our fast-paced environment, many of us forgo sleep and overextend ourselves to catch up on work and other responsibilities. 

The result is that 1/3 Americans suffer from a sleep disorder and we have an energy crisis:  

  • We are overly dependent on our phones and electronic devices 

  • We have forgotten how to rest, not just sleep 

  • We seek fuel for our bodies in energies that are not healthy 

  • We eat high glycemic foods 

  • We use stimulants such as caffeine and sugar to provide temporary energy 

  • We confuse rest with stimulating recreation 

Sleep is critical for our optimal health and wellbeing. Critical activities that occur during sleep: 

  • Internal organs rest and recover 

  • Hormones that help regulate appetite control, stress, growth, metabolism, and other bodily functions are released

  • Memory consolidation, allowing for formation and storage of new memories 

  • Increased energy to make better lifestyle choices (cooking, exercise, self-care, etc.)

  • Strengthened immune system 

  • Heightened alertness, focus, and creativity 

  • Improved mood by reducing anxiety, irritability, and mental exhaustion 

  • Increased libido 

You can improve the quality of your sleep by focusing on your nutrition, sleep etiquette and daily rhythms.

Nutrition:

  • Eat a variety of whole foods  

  • Limit sugar and caffeine intake 

  • Reduce alcohol consumption close to bedtime  

  • Experiment with light evening meals  

  • Crowd out late-night snacking with yoga, journaling, reading, or connecting with a loved one

  • Avoid late-night beverages 

Sleep Etiquette:

  • Create a peaceful bedroom with calm colors, no clutter, and minimal light and noise

  • Invest in an aromatherapy diffuser 

  • Soak in a hot bath  

  • Read fiction to relax the mind  

  • Legs up the wall yoga pose

  • Meditate  

  • Don’t fall asleep on the couch  

  • Keep electronics outside of your bedroom

  • Reduce blue device light which impairs the product of melatonin more than any other wavelength 

  • Write worries down before going to bed 

  • End the evening with a gratitude practice 

Daily Rhythms:

  • Start your day with positive focus 

  • Incorporate moments of rest throughout the day 

  • Institute device-free time 

  • Take power naps for 15-20 minutes after lunch and before 3pm 

  • Exercise or move daily  

  • Create a bedtime routine to wind down  

  • Experiment with restorative evening activities  

  • Eat earlier and drink less alcohol  

  • Track your sleep habits  

  • Reduce late night excessive thoughts or worries 

Ending the day with gratitude and appreciation is a wonderful way to reflect on the blessings of your day, give thanks for people and circumstances, and also to change our thoughts before we go to sleep. 

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