Yes, and ...

Yes, and …

We don’t need to be, or do, only one thing. We can build a whole life doing all/many of the things that are interesting to us.

I’ve noticed that many of us think that life decisions need to be binary. We have placed handcuffs on ourselves and then agonize trying to make the “right” decision. Yet, you have full permission to try something new.  You may either love it or decide that it’s not for you. Either result is a win. 

The area where this is prevalent is around our careers. In our minds, we have to either stay in our current roles or quit and do something different. Or, we have to work for someone else or start our own business. Or, we stay here, and we can go there on some imaginary future date. So, who made up these rules? 

I love to remind my coaching clients that we don’t need to be, or do, only one thing. We can build a whole life doing all/many exciting things. The first step is to follow the energy and passion. 

If there’s an idea that you’ve been thinking about, take the first step and explore that option. Then, do the research, and then take action. 

• If you want to teach a course while you’re still working full time, contact a local university.

• If you’d like to work at Starbucks because you love coffee and miss talking to people, fill out an application.

• If you want to open an Etsy shop and sell things you create, do that.

• If you love to cook and may be interested in exploring it as a career later in life, sign up for a cooking class.

• If you want to sign-up for yoga teacher training while working full-time at a bank, do that.

That last example was me. I signed up for yoga teacher training two years before leaving my job and starting my own business. Why? I wasn’t sure at the time. All I knew was that I wanted to follow my desire to learn more. I had a hunch that the dots would connect in the future somehow. And, they have. 

Here are a few other reminders:

• You have permission to try new things.

• There is no perfect time to try something new.

• Trying something and deciding you don’t like it isn’t a failure; it’s information.

• We all have 24 hours in the day, and if it’s essential, you’ll make time for it.

• We don’t have to have it all figured out to take action. Just start.

What’s the worst that can happen?

• You may meet some cool new people you wouldn’t ordinarily meet.

• You may find a newfound zest for life.

• You may increase your skills.

• You may find a passion that you want to explore further.

• You may find yourself proud that you took a chance on something new.

Remember, tomorrow is not promised, but we do have today. 

La Dolce Far Niente

La Dolce Far Niente

When was the last time you did nothing and didn’t feel bored or guilty?

When was the last time you did nothing and didn’t feel bored or guilty?

I can’t recall the last time I did nothing all day long.  Yesterday, I did just that, and I relished every minute.  

This weekend my days and evenings were packed with activity and we went to bed late.  Saturday night I didn’t sleep enough and woke up exhausted.  I tried to follow my morning routine but didn’t have the energy to do much of anything.  

I begrudgingly canceled plans with my friends and instead stayed in my pajamas for most of the day.  I read a book, took a nap on the couch, soaked in the tub, and then watched “Eat, Pray, Love” with my family.  Although I’ve seen this movie several times before, and read the book at least twice, one scene in the movie stood out this time around.  

The main character Liz is in Rome with her friends in a barber shop when herfriend Luca states that Americans don’t know the true meaning of La Dolce Far Niente. Loosely translated this expression means “the art of doing nothing”  or “the sweetness of nothing.”  Now, how ironic and appropriate that I was practicing La Dolce Far Niente yesterday and relishing in doing nothing all day long.

In the morning, I enjoyed two delicious cups of coffee while staring out at the trees, flowers and sky. Then, when I was reading my book, a hummingbird flew directly in front of my face and hovered for at least 10 seconds. I was so taken aback by the proximity of this magical creature that I felt my breath quicken.  After my new friend departed, I looked up the significance of a hummingbird spotting, and found that they are reminders to suck the sweetness out of life, to be present and mindful - La Dolce Far Niente. 

I was reminded of how important it is to observe a day of rest and learn again how to pause and give my mind and body a break.  By the end of the day, I was more relaxed, my energy was strengthened, and I felt refreshed.  I now recognize the need to take a day of rest each week.  And, there are ways we can practice La Dolce Far Niente daily. 

How can we practice La Dolce Far Niente more often in our lives?

• Enjoy your cup of coffee or tea in silence

• Sit quietly in nature

• Read a book or magazine

• Put away all of your devices 

• Take a nap

• Listen to music

• Lounge in a hammock

• Take a leisurely walk

• People watch

If doing nothing sounds indulgent and maybe a little uncomfortable, start incorporating small, little moments throughout the day that eventually add up.  Over time, you may start to fall in love with this practice.  

How will you practice the sweetness of doing nothing?